For us, I give about 30% of the time, but would give more if asked. I would give 100% of the time if asked. But, I think that my DW still has some aversion to receiving, so doesn't like it every time. We do manual or vibrator the other times. Receiving... used to be never. Now, I am blessed about 10-20% of the time. I don't ask, it needs to be a gift.